A Shadow Work process starts when a facilitator asks, “What would you like to have happen?” You can then explain in your own words what you want for yourself. And if you’re not sure what you want, the facilitator can listen carefully and help you determine what it is that you want.
Generally, people want something that falls into one of these categories:
- To understand why they behave in a certain way
- To get help or support for unfolding more of themselves
- To work with feelings like fear, grief, or anger
- To break through old patterns of behaviour
In a group setting, Shadow Work processes only begin after a strong sense of safety and trust has been built among group members through carefully designed group exercises. Exposing parts of your shadow can feel risky. To work effectively with your shadows, you need a place where you can feel safe and trust others. Shadow Work provides you with such a place.
In a Shadow Work seminar you can share the path with others, who will help motivate you with acceptance and encouragement. You may want to learn from watching how others process their shadows. When you see others finding the courage hidden within their fear, or the power in their anger, you may be able to apply that learning directly to your own situation.
In the group, everyone withholds judgment and refrains from giving advice. This means that the participants can appreciate and learn from the different journeys we have each chosen. Feeling the depth and power of love in a truly safe and shame-free Shadow Work container is often an inspiring experience in and of itself.
Using the Shadow Work tools, the facilitator helps by reconstructing your issue, so that you can identify the shadow and view it objectively. The facilitators suggest perspectives about the shadow and can facilitate powerful techniques for re-integrating the energy that has been in shadow. The facilitator will ask for your choice at each step, so that what you want guides the process. No one is ever pressured to go beyond their own comfort level.
The core of every shadow contains a nugget of power and strength. Your shadows are like a gold mine of buried treasure, filled with unknown creative, useful energy. You have the opportunity to work on the issues buried in your shadow until you feel you can integrate the gold you find there.
John and Nicola’s deep empathy, insight and skill produce extraordinary results in a very short space of time.
“John and Nicola are state-of-the-art facilitators.”
AB, November 2014
“I was amazed at this delicate, intuitive approach to helping people become more self-aware. The whole programme was very intelligent and holistic, supporting the participants in every way they needed it.”
BF, November 2014
“For me, Shadow Work was transformational, empowering, liberating and the best present I gave to myself. I am now ready to achieve my highest potential.”
NN, June 2010